One thing learned over many years in business,
education, learning and change: throwing out [or setting aside] your current
way of thinking VERY often reveals whole new worlds of problem-solving
possibilities. Replacing your paradigm [the
framework within which you interpret your world] can provide a totally new and
very often much more effective solution to the problem at hand.
On these blog pages are MANY instances
of parents expressing frustration with their teen’s behavior. Question to those parents: Did you NOT EXPECT your
teen might act that way? Really?
It's reasonable to assume that a good
many of those behaviors are consciously or unconsciously intended to arouse
their parents’ anger, frustration or eyebrows, maliciously or innocently.
Why not surprise ‘em completely? Imagine
replacing your USUAL response – they knew you were gonna say that – with a
complete reversal? Your teen will then
have a very different challenge as to what to say or do next!
This isn’t a WIN vs. LOSE proposition, just a way to level the playing
field.
What do you commonly
face?
“Please take the
trash out - NO REPLY
or says “no.”
“Please get up so you
get to school on time” -NO REPLY/"No.”
“Please empty the
dishwasher” - NO REPLY/ "No"
“Put the controller away, start studying” - NO
REPLY/ "No"
How would you respond? _________________.
Check back here tomorrow for suggested
answers…
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